The Day I Considered Suicide

The Day I Considered Suicide

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Freedom didn’t become important until the day Ryan considered suicide. Until then all he cared about was being significant and rich. The day in question was in 2010 when he was 23 years old and fresh out of college, attending Yanik Silver’s Maverick’s event in Washington, D.C. From the outside looking in, it appeared that Ryan had it all together, yet internally his life had been in shambles for quite sometime. He felt fake, hopeless, purposeless, and that he didn’t matter. Despite making decent money, he had a fear that it was all going to go away. His suspicion was that he had just gotten lucky, and his self-perception was being chipped away.

He pretty much only ate superfoods, and as a result, his health started to decline; he was pale, thin, and very lonely. At the time Ryan was a very religious person and felt that there was a dark presence in the room that told him to open the window in the hotel room and jump out. Ryan called the suicide prevention hotline and had an awkward conversation.

Ryan decided to give it one more day and returned to the conference and bumped into his friend Vinnie. Two statements that Vinnie really impacted him with were 1) I believe in you and 2) Tell me about your girlfriend. Over the next few days Ryan experienced extreme highs and lows, with the sense of ‘who the hell cares what happens today.’

Ryan called his girlfriend and told her about what had happened, and she broke up with him. He was devastated and felt like he had lost everything. From this place, he rebuilt over a year and worked on getting his health and relationships back on track. He went through counseling but never took medication for depression. Ryan believes in using pain as a change agent and says that it is amazing fuel for making changes. To numb the pain would have taken away the fuel to make the change he wanted to make.

It wasn’t until later that freedom became important to Ryan. He felt like he was living on ‘bonus time’ and realized security is merely a feeling and each person defines the rules for that and happiness. Ryan isn’t afraid of the guy who has gone through a dark time but rather is afraid of the guy who has never gone through a dark time. The things we complain about today are pathetic.

We are all living in bonus time. Freedom has little-to-nothing to do with finances and is simply a tool to have more freedom. You are not free if you are dead or living in a mental trap of insecurity, pain, depression, sadness, or loneliness. Freedom is so much more than money. It is recognizing that you are in complete control of your results and realizing there is no such thing as security, so you are free do whatever you want. Freedom is losing the need for approval from other people, because your perception of their approval is all in your head and their approval is all in their head and none of it is real. Freedom is realizing that there is a blank slate and you can do whatever you want with it, and at no point is it ever too late to erase and start drawing again.

We don’t like to talk about mental illness, depression, or suicide, and when you are going through any of those things, it’s the most painful feeling of complete and utter emptiness. There is no reason to keep it hidden or be embarrassed. You can be free of it and just need to recognize it.

Doing less instead of more has been the way Ryan has navigated out of difficult times, dialing back and letting go of the things that you want to hustle and push towards. Get in-tune and quiet with the things you actually want. You don’t get things to make you happy; you bring your happiness to the things that you built.

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Links to Resources Mentioned

Suicide Prevention

The Primal Connection (book)

A New Earth (book)

The Game (book)

Straight-Line Leadership (book)


  • Paras Saxena

    Nice Article

  • andrew simpson

    Wow, Ryan! Thanks for having the balls to talk about your struggles through dark times. I am willing to bet that many successful people and even more that are not successful have walked a similar path. That was where I was about a year ago and it was hell. It is inspiring to hear that you found a path through. So refreshing to find a leader who tells about all his battle scars.

  • Drew Saum

    Thank you Ryan… very inspiring stuff! I was beginning my IM career over 10 years ago now, living in Downtown Cleveland (above the winking lizard by the Cavs arena) and started looking for people locally to connect with. I followed your ascension in hopes to someday meet up, but your star seemed to be shining brightly and I figured you would never have the time for someone so new in the industry like I was then. Back then living and abundance lifestyle was not even a thought in my mind, it was very financially driven. Then after college I moved to Phoenix, AZ and kind of lost track of your career… until your episode with JLD (EOF). That episode lead me to this podcast, and I have to say as a person from the outside during that time, you were still an inspiration to a lot of people (myself included) even though you were having these serious life struggles. I am so glad to see your success has continued and still look forward to grabbing a beer / coffee someday… until then keep being yourself and the world will love you for what your life stories can provide for them.

  • Meredith

    This hit me pretty hard, Ryan. It brought back bad memories from me during my childhood. My mother had some problems and attempted suicide 3 times and talked about it even more.
    I was only 9 when she tried the first time. Thank God I was near her and grabbed the pills out of her hand and ran.
    Those were some tough years.
    Thank God you are still with us.

  • Emily

    Hello Ryan, it took courage to share your story, especially if you feel shame for what you went through. It was evident that you would have rather not share it, however, your story may possibly save someone’s life. I believe you’ve helped many people. Thank you.